Wednesday, July 2, 2008 

Help for Social Anxiety

What is Social Anxiety?

Social anxiety manifests in a lot of different ways. You may be shy with new people, but fine with old friends. You may do well at work, but dread parties. You may not even identify your anxiety as social. It may just feel like free floating anxiety. But you notice that it feels better when you are alone or with someone you feel close to. In some cases, the anxiety can become so intense that it causes panic attacks. People with severe or chronic symptoms may be diagnosed with Social Phobia or Avoidant Personality Disorder. However, the majority of people with social anxiety have distress that, while uncomfortable, is not that severe.

Social Anxiety at Work

Social Anxiety can limit your ability to be successful at work. This is especially true in careers that require giving presentations or selling yourself. And getting a job can be particularly painful because of the interview process.

Social Anxiety and Romance

Dating and social situations are another area that can cause great discomfort for those with social anxiety. The fear of looking silly, dumb, embarrassed or boring can makes shy people very uncomfortable. When other people sense that discomfort, they back away - reinforcing whatever negative beliefs the shy person has about him/herself.

Social Anxiety and Addiction

A large percentage of people struggling with addictions have social anxiety as an underlying issue. Often, the drinking or drug use begins as a way to feel more relaxed in social situations. And then, because it works, people continue using substances to cope with the anxiety. After a while, addiction takes hold, and the problem becomes recovery. So many recovering alcoholics and addicts find that once they are sober, all these feelings come up. And they dont know how to manage them.

A lot of addictions are hidden. Some people eat compulsively to numb their anxiety. Some spend hours watching TV or playing computer games. Some people work excessively. Others exercise fanatically. These are not true addictions in that there is no physiological dependence on a substance. But the behaviors still serve to distract and numb anxiety as well as to avoid situations which may heighten discomfort.

Social Anxiety and Depression

People with social anxiety often avoid situations that are uncomfortable. As a result, they may feel lonely, inadequate or like they are failing to reach their goals. When these feelings accumulate over time, depression and low self-esteem can result.

What causes social anxiety?

Research tells us that social anxiety runs in families and may have a biological component. Most clients I work with describe having one or both parents who are overly critical, judgmental or perfectionistic. It appears that as children, we internalize our parents judgment and then try to hide or compensate for the traits we perceive as flawed.

How is Social Anxiety Treated?

In some cases, social anxiety is treated with anti-anxiety medication. Most mental health professionals agree that the most effective treatment is a combination of medication and psychotherapy. For people with milder symptoms or people who are sensitive to medication, psychotherapy alone can be very effective.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is the treatment of choice for most anxiety disorders, and is very effective with social anxiety. This type of therapy involves identifying incorrect thoughts that lead to anxiety. For example, you may notice that you tell yourself things like, Uh oh! I dont know anyone here. I cant just go up to people and start talking. Theyll think Im weird. Theyll see how nervous I am... Just having these thoughts is enough to make you sweat!

With a therapists help, you learn to examine these thoughts and evaluate their accuracy. You replace them with more realistic thoughts like, I may not know anyone here, but I can have a good time anyway. There are probably other people here who feel shy and could use someone kind to talk to. I can listen in on different conversations and see if any of them are interesting. If I feel comfortable, I can introduce myself to someone and ask them some questions about themselves...

Other forms of therapy that are helpful include Somatic therapy - which helps develop awareness and control of the physical symptoms that occur with anxiety - and Self-Psychology in which you gain greater compassion and self-acceptance as your needs, feelings and personality traits are explored and understood. Social anxiety treatment has a very high success rate, so dont hesitate to find an experienced therapist who can help.

Julie Levin is a Marriage and Family Therapist with a practice in Pleasant Hill, CA (near San Francisco). She specializes in the treatment of anxiety and the behaviors that result - like overeating, drug or alcohol abuse, over spending or hoarding/clutter. Julie also offers therapy by phone or web-based videoconferencing. She can be reached at 925-518-4072 or http://www.julielevin.com.

 

How to Overcome Anxiety Panic Attacks

Anxiety panic disorder is a very disabling condition that can interfere with your daily life. It can interfere during driving, when speaking in public or when doing simple tasks like shopping. To improve the quality of your life you need to know how to overcome anxiety panic attacks.

Here are some tips on how to overcome anxiety panic attacks:

A well balanced diet to overcome anxiety panic attacks. The food that you eat has direct effects on your mind and body. You have to take into consideration the effect of diet on your level of anxiety. There are certain foods that serve as trigger and make you more nervous and anxious. And there are foods that have calming effects and make you strong and stable. Acidic foods like alcohol, sugar, salt, proteins and dairy products can increase your level of anxiety while alkaline foods like fruits and vegetables makes you more stable and eliminate anxiety. If you are in control of your diet and your body you can also control your mind and emotions. Diet can help you overcome anxiety panic attacks.

Regular exercise. Getting a regular exercise makes your body stronger and function at its best. Regular exercise can decrease your stress level and muscle tension which can help you overcome anxiety panic attacks. Along with regular exercise, breathing exercise makes you more stable, relax and less anxious.

Distract yourself to overcome anxiety panic attacks. If you are getting anxious, distracting yourself can help you divert your focus to the things around you and makes you more at ease and forget your anxiety. You can distract yourself from frightening thoughts by watching television or by repeating calming phrases and re-assuring yourself that there is nothing to be afraid of and you will feel better.

Positive thinking. Train yourself to think positively to overcome anxiety panic attacks. Do not give in to your negative thoughts. Anxious thoughts will trigger your disorder leading to panic attacks. In every situation, whether speaking in public or doing an important thing at work or in school, think positively that you can survive it all. Be rational with your thinking and do not think negatively.

Get help from the experts. If you find it hard to overcome anxiety panic attacks by yourself, there are experts who can help you. There are people trained to help you manage and deal with anxiety panic attacks.

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Gerry Restrivera writes informative articles on various subjects including How to Overcome Anxiety Panic Attacks. You are allowed to publish this article in its entirety provided that author's name, bio and website links must remain intact and included with every reproduction.

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